when tyson and i were trying to decide whether or not we wanted to have kids (which seems like eons ago), we made our list of pros and cons. one of the biggest pros was that our kids would have family - lots and lots of family. i grew up as an only child and my family (everyone besides my parents and my grandparents) lived over six hours away. that being said - my family is pretty large - and even though we didn't live close to the majority of them, they still had a big influence on my life. tyson had the same experience - only he had a lot more relatives that lived close by. realizing that my parents were getting older, and our grandparents were getting older - that's partly why we chose to have kids when we did. we wanted our kids to experience as much family as they could so when they got older - that's what their memories were. thankfully, both of our kids have had more family experiences than any two little kids could ever ask for. when our children were born - they had ELEVEN living grandparents. that number dwindled to nine and yesterday, that number dwindled to eight.
my grandma hasn't quite been the same for years since they diagnosed her with alzheimer's. in fact, not long before i got married, i remember getting in a huge argument with her because she was driving on the wrong side of the road and she was absolutely SURE she was driving on the right side of the road. needless to say it was the last time i rode with her because she WAS driving on the wrong side of the road. so although my grandma and i haven't necessarily been close over the course of the last decade - the one thing i'm thankful for is the time she got to spend with my kids. when she couldn't remember anything else - she could remember their names and her face lit up when they came in the room. they would fight over who got to tell her about what was going on their life first - and i'm thankful they both got to tell her about their first days of school. after all, who gets to go to school and say you have nine living grandparents (and they're all biological grandparents!).
although you always wish there was more time - the fact that her life ended in absolute peace is all anyone can really ask for. goodbye grandma!